Healthy adult attachment is significant for relationship continuity and satisfaction. While security has been studied as a concept in literature, limited research exists on the experience of it in the context of relationships in India. The purpose of the research was to understand and conceptualize the experience of security in the process of tool development. A qualitative approach from a phenomenological paradigm was used to obtain rich experiences, understand it in depth and maintain the uniqueness of the data. In two separate studies, 29 participants between the ages of 18 and 32, married and those in pre-marital relationships participated either in a focus group discussion or an individual interview to share their experiences. The present paper explores how one emergent theme pertaining to individual security influences significantly relationship security. Analysis revealed how past experiences, family upbringing can influence sense of being ‘valued’ in the relationship and the factors they seek for in a partner to feel secure. In a rapidly westernizing culture, this information could help understand the complexities of relationships in modern India, aid in building better psychoeducational and counselling services in addition to theory building on the concept of relationship security.